Living at home is the new norm of this generation. You go away to college, graduate, and more often than not… return to the nest. Yup, it’s what I did. It’s what most of my friend’s did. There are pros and there are cons, but we learn to adjust and re-learn to live with each other. I’m very lucky that my parents are okay with me returning to the nest.
My family is also really supportive of my lifestyle. Whether they are waiting for me at the finish line, listening to me ramble about a WOD or trying hard not to roll their eyes as I make yet another mess in the kitchen… I am grateful for their support.
I can’t believe I have been back living at home for over a year. Craziness. When I moved off campus and began my “health kick” in my junior year, I started to figure out how the heck to buy groceries and then what to do with them. I kept it even more painfully simple than I do now: I chopped some veggies, made some chicken and ate a whole lot of 100-calorie-packs and Lean Cuisine dinners.
When I moved back home, I knew Mom and Dad weren’t going to be packing me lunches to take to work and I didn’t expect dinner to be on the table waiting for me when I got home. And I didn’t want that. Just as I was growing up, my kitchen endeavors and food philosophy needed to grow with me. Sure, Dad grills (and it’s delicious) but it’s “every man for themselves” in my house (The Hunger Games in a literal sense) and it is for the best.
I eat “differently” than my parents and they eat “differently” than me. As I said, we do enjoy some meals together but 90% of the time… I am Katniss. When I first moved home, I was eating lots of protein pancakes with “weird” ingredients while Mom preferred pancakes from the Aunt Jemima box. I ate tons of beans and veggies for dinner while Dad usually grilled rib-eyes. Now I eat tons of meat, but if it’s not grass-fed/antibiotic free/hormone free/yadda/yadda, I don’t eat what my Dad grills. Gosh, I say all this yet I still believe that I am not a food snob.
So how does it work? We live in the same house, share the same kitchen space, fridge and pantry yet we do our own thing – while still all sitting down to enjoy meals together. This works for us. Sure, the kitchen gets a bit squishy (there are literally too many cooks in the kitchen), my tupperware takes over the fridge and I have my own space in the pantry… but it works because we are respectful of each other’s choices. Whether you are living with your parents, room-mates or a significant other, your eating habits may not be the same.
I don’t have a magical solution for you in your quest to figuring this out. It just sorta happens and falls into place – and it is something that I continue to work on. But my biggest piece of advice: focus on you.
I haven’t always been a shining example of this.
Sometimes I lecture my dad on how bad canola oil is for you. Sometimes I give my sister “a look” when she eats something. Sometimes I get “angry” at my mom for eating crackers and jam for dinner… because she isn’t “nourishing her body.” Shut. Up. Amy. No-one asked you. These are their choices, not mine. Because you know what? More often than not, my dad eats a huge bowl of berries and shows me his bowl of fruit because he is proud. More often than not, my mom preps her veggies for the week and tells me how helpful it is. More often than not, Lesley sends me pictures of her delicious looking breakfasts – smoked salmon, avocado and strawberries… mmm.
Yes, everyone needs to find their own healthy balance and figure out what works for them. Of course I wish my family ate all organic, grass-fed, used coconut oil and ghee, but that’s not my place. I can only focus on me. More often than not, my habits rub off on the people around me without shoving it in their face.
What I am trying to say is that I truly believe that the best leaders lead by example. I want to be a good leader. I don’t want to be someone who imposes their thoughts and beliefs on someone else. If someone asks, tell. If they don’t… well sometimes you just gotta shut-up and let the ones you love live their lives.
And I love them. Aren’t we cute? Awwww.
Lesley and I are heading to Chicago today… I obviously won’t be eating “my way” 100% of the time and that’s cool. I am pretty happy with how I balance my eating while traveling. I’ll be sure to fill you in on our adventures next week! But don’t miss a sweet giveaway happening on Monday… it’s open worldwide, yay!
Have a wonderful weekend, enjoy the sunshine and remember to focus on you.
Questions of the day…
Do you live with other people? How do you handle your health choices?
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